DEAR DEIDRE: My mother-in-law thinks my husband is still a little boy to be the boss, and it’s ruining our lives.
He puts up with everything and it drives me crazy.
He even invited himself on our honeymoon, took over the seating plan at our wedding, and has constant “family gatherings” on the weekends that we have to attend.
I am 32, my husband is 33 and my mother-in-law is 59.
I couldn’t believe it when she and my father-in-law insisted on paying for our honeymoon – she was so generous.
But a week before our wedding, they announced that they had booked the cottage next door on our Greek island so we could share some of our “special time” together.
My husband is sick of it too, but he’s having a hard time resisting it.
That’s why I’m the one who puts my foot down, then I’m seen as a troublemaker.
Every issue gets a personal response, usually within 24 hours on weekdays.
I really feel like I’m suffocating when I’m with him.
How can I change this annoying relationship?
DEIDRE SAYS: Your mother-in-law is undoubtedly used to being the head of the family.
He is used to making all the decisions.
Talk to your husband and see if he will let him know that while he will always be a big part of your life, he should also let you make your own decisions.
Gently but firmly set some boundaries and he will start getting the message.
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